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Tęden:
Men suffer from domestic violence as much
as women
By ČTK / Published
While dozens of studies focusing on male victims of domestic violence
have been
made abroad, only one survey on this subject has been conducted in the
The survey made by a team of lecturers and students from the South
Bohemian
University, published in the book "Domestic Violence Committed on Men
and
Seniors" in 2006, reveals that "every tenth Czech man experiences in
his partnership something that goes beyond a common argument and that
is close
to violence, either physical or psychological," Tyden writes.
Women's weapons are sophisticated. They, for instance, cut their
partners from
their friends, ridicule them or use "food terror," Tyden writes.
At last one third of Czech men has experienced at least three types of
attacks
defined as domestic violence in the suvey, a part of which was an
anonymous
poll.
The poll sets 11 degrees of "terror" women apply to men, ranging from
arguments, verbal aggression, insults and threats, through physical
violence
such as slaps or destroying things to sexual pressure and continuous
showing
contempt and disregard for the partner.
Four percent of the polled men admitted they were victims of physical
attacks
by their partners.
Sociologist Jiri Burianek, co-author of the survey and head of the
sociology
studies at
"It is in fact what I expected. The surveys conducted abroad showing
that
both genders have more or less equal experience with domestic violence
have
been warning us for a long time already," the weekly quotes Burianek as
saying.
He says men are often more vulnerable than women since there is
actually nobody
to help them, while women have dozens of non-profit organisations to
protect
them.
"Men have nobody to turn to. In addition, they are usually more
embarrassed to reveal their story to somebody," Burianek says.
"While in physical maltreatment the victims are usually women, in
mental
torture they are in the lead," Burianek says.
Women's main tools to torture their partners are psychological ones.
"Reproaching, offending, humiliating, shouting, turning children
against
their fathers and deliberately leading them to feel hatred towards
their
fathers, slandering," the paper quotes psychologist Eduard Bakalar as
saying.
Men's defence mechanisms are, on the other hand, virtually zero, the
weekly
writes.
"Women started with domestic violence on a large scale only after World
War Two, along with their emancipation en masse. Men are still getting
used to
the new position of women and their greater self-sufficience," Bakalar
says.
Many women, however, do not even realise that they torture their
partner,
causing them big psychological problems, Tyden writes.
This is the case of "food terror", one of the most sophisticated
women's weapons. This happens when women deliberately prepare meals
that their
partners dislike or blackmail them saying "you can eat after you get me
what I want," Tyden writes, quoting another psychologist, Martina
Venglarova.
The weekly, however, also gives an example of domestic violence when a
woman
intentionally put a lot of sugar into her husband's coffee and a lot of
oil and
fat into his meals to make him fat and less attractive for other women.
Women are becoming capable and successful professionals in their
careers and
are richer, while men are losing their exclusive position of
breadwinners, thus
becoming more vulnerable than they have ever thought, the weekly
concludes.